It’s very tricky to give advice to your child, especially if you want your advice followed! Sometimes it’s so obvious what our child needs to do: Do your homework. Do it early and on time. Don’t wait until the last minute to get the homework or project finished. Remember the 3 T’s:
· Tentative – Start with words like “You might have already thought about this…” or “What do you think about trying…” These statements will increase your teen’s likelihood of actually trying your suggestion.
· Timing – Wait a few hours after you find out about a bad grade before giving any advice. When we give advice right away after bad news, our kids rarely hear it!
· Temper – If your teen is cranky, no amount of advice will get in. Wait until a more receptive time.